Rise above

“If evil be spoken of you and it be true, correct yourself, if it be a lie, laugh at it.” Epictetus

Some things I have learned thusly: Not everyone will like you and I cannot take myself too seriously. I have (and still do) face criticism. I have found that the best way to stay out of controversy is to completely avoid it. If one does not do anything negative, then when we find ourselves amongst gossip and chaos, we can rest easy and simply laugh it off knowing that it is baseless and completely unfounded. I am indeed overly happy and all over the place, but I am harmless! I have received reminders of myself from 10 years ago and I must say, it’s COMPLETELY embarrassing! I must call myself out (aside from things done to me) I have been a thief, a liar, a cheat, an addict and alcoholic, completely out of control; this hardly touches the surface. If you are any of these things; do not count yourself out and feel damaged beyond repair. There is always hope; I know but little, I do, however, I know something about and believe in humanity and goodness. Trust that I am well versed on current events, much of my life revolves around them. I am well aware of all of the negativity and atrocities in the world; many of which (and I am EXTREMELY sad about) involve people I love. If I do not involve myself, I can laugh off negativity and realize it is not ME, but the other party. I have spent too much of my life spent at the whim of others; we choose this, no person has control unless permission is granted. One need not waste needless energy on worry of other’s thoughts about them, but rather remain secure with themselves.

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Approval/Condemnation

You’re approval is not needed! We often attempt to shape and mold ourselves to fit into other’s specific ideals; denying our true selves. We have the here and now to allow ourselves to be “ourselves”, shirking other’s opinions. It matters not what others think of us, as long as we remain true to ourselves. This is NOT clearing someone to be a jerk; it could be argued that those who would look down on others are filled with fear and insecurity. Those would would injure others are often writhe with anger and such fear along with a lack of confidence. I am not perfect, but it has come to pass that, as I have gained a sense of self-confidence and security, I no longer feel the need to belittle or argue with opposite parties. It can be said that individuals who insult and argue are missing a sense of self-esteem and feel the need to take their lack thereof out on opposing parties. However, is not condemning others for their anger still sitting judgment? Judge not.