Regret

Regret will only take root in the mind for as long as it’s allowed. One may have myriad regret, but it serves no purpose to dwell on such; the past cannot be changed. It is possible, however, to learn from these things and alter the present. I have done plenty of things of which I am regretful; I am also keenly aware that I cannot change any of them, but I can live to the best of my ability today. No one has the power to change the past; we live and learn and have sorrow, however, it does not have to consume us. One need not live in the past; we all have the ability to choose whether or not we will ruminate or move forward. Feelings of guilt and remorse are often veritable plagues on the psyche, but feelings aren’t facts and living with these feeling is often painful. No good will come from these.
PLEASE be aware I am absolutely not proposing that one should ignore these and not feel guilt. I am simply stating that former events cannot be altered; they can be taken as lessons learned. What to do and what not to do. Try though I may, I cannot WILL my past, present or future. We can try our hardest to be the best we can, but realize that we are simply not that powerful. There are definitely occurrences in my past that I’d change if I could, but it’s a moot point; I can only head lessons from the past and take what I may from these. For example, I have failed to show love to the best of my ability and been downright atrocious. If I let this riddle with with pangs of shame and guilt; if I hold onto those feelings, they will take over my mind. I will hold onto and stay “stuck” in the past; I will replay past misfortunes and sorrows and will fail to live in the moment (if I am living in the past). Whether it be regret over loss of a person or object, illness, hospitalization, a living situation, etc. ; one does not need live in such a state.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Leave a Reply

  Subscribe  
Notify of